Personal and family matters
How to Check Out Someone You Met Online
Most people online are who they say they are. A few simple checks, and a professional verification when the stakes are higher, keep you safe.
Key points
- Reverse-search their photos
- Check that details are consistent
- Meet in public and tell someone
Simple checks
Run their photos through a reverse image search, look for a consistent online presence over time, and ask for a live video call.
Watch for inconsistencies
Details that change, stories that don't add up, reluctance to share basic facts, or pressure to move off the dating platform quickly.
Meet safely
Meet in public, arrange your own transportation, and tell a friend where you'll be.
Professional verification
A dating background check confirms identity and checks relevant public records.
Common questions
Is it legal to research a date?
Yes, using public and lawful sources.
Will they know?
Research is discreet.
Can you check criminal history?
Public court records can be searched where available.
This guide is general information, not legal advice. Laws change and vary by state; consult an attorney about your situation. See our legal disclaimer.
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